You can choose any word you like for that blank in the title. Some days I use the word “fly” and some days . . . well, you get the drift.
And can you tell that there are some days when abundance has its limits? I’m not sure if it is the full moon, the mid-month doldrums or what, but one of my former followers has taken exception to the use of “boot camp” in my marketing. And she tried to turn it into a push for some weird agenda. Fail.
The Email Thread With MMBooklover
So here’s how it went down. Usually when I do an email blast to my list, I get inquiries for more information. Or I get solid, meaningful feedback. Not often do I get trolls like mmbooklover.
First, here is a link to the email in question. It is for the upcoming online event Interpreting Your AncestryDNA Results Boot Camp on Saturday, June 24th.
Second, here is the email exchange:
mmbooklover: “Do you really believe military terminology “boot camp” is the best way to market your product?”
tmacentee: “Yes – I do. Any other questions?”
mmbooklover: “better change some of your misstatements on your LinkedIn bio”
tmacentee: “You know what? Piss off. LOL”
tmacentee: “Abundance has its limits – especially with unstable people. You’ve given me a great idea for my next post – you may see your own reflection in it over at Abundant Genealogy.” HAVE A GREAT DAY!
mmbooklover: “”In addition, I track the “habits” of genealogists including purchasing decisions, what attracts and repels them, and more.” Jesus. PTSD much?
Great. Now I have a stalker. I think I’ll call her Mary. Can you tell that I have a low threshold for bullshit today? Actually people who know me, know it is most days when that bar is set.
My Take on MMBooklover’s Screed
I guess Mary doesn’t like the military. Maybe Mary needs to take off her tin foil hat, especially when she’s just come back from a meeting of the Flat Earth Society and understand that there can be balance even in the military.
Do you have clean water to drink, Mary? Are you protected against floods, Mary? You can thank the Army Corps of Engineers for that. What about the ability to travel safely? What about even the freedom to just be Mary?
I agree that there are some excesses with the US military – I don’t like manufactured wars, I don’t like when companies like Haliburton make money off of warfare. But I simply used a term “boot camp” which to me means “an intensive training regiment” that has its roots in the military.
Mary obviously has some issues and an agenda. Mary has the freedom to do that, but she just picked the wrong fight and the wrong person. Aren’t there more important issues right now?
I hope Mary finds some peace and some balance. I hope leaving a one star review on the Facebook page has helped Mary in that search. [By the way, you can click here to leave your own review of Abundant Genealogy!]
Genealogy Is a Search for Balance
The main point I want to make is that it takes all kinds. In life and in genealogy. Isn’t genealogy and our research really just a search for balance? Where would we be personally or as a community without the constant tension of balance and unbalance?
Think about it: you have information about an ancestor, perhaps based on a family story. You find records that both support and contradict the family story. You cite your sources. You evaluate evidence. You ponder and write a balanced conclusion.
In addition, what do we do with those ancestors whose lives we just find filled with “wrong” at least from a modern perspective? Owners of enslaved ancestors, white supremacists, misogynists, etc. Do we embrace them because they are our blood, despite their faults? Do we seek to understand their thoughts and actions, avoiding present-ism while doing so?
Genealogy is not for the meek or the weak. Genealogy is hard work just to seek a balanced view of our ancestors.
Bring on the Crazies in Genealogy
I will be the first to admit that I am not the most balanced person some days. But that’s life. Each day I seek balance: eating the right things, getting enough exercise, trying to do good deeds and be nice to people. But there are limits too. The search for balance doesn’t make one a door mat.
Perhaps we need more people like Mary in genealogy just so those of us who seek balance can put our goals in proper perspective.
Photo Credit: Depositphotos, Crazy Senior Woman. Not to be confused with “Mary” – I don’t even know what she looks like.
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